I'm really wondering? In my opinion, you have the LEAST QUALIFIED people leading discussions, selling books, going on talk shows and giving advice to Black women on how to pull and marry a man???? Maybe it's just me, but that seems really off!
Tariq Nasheed has these podcasts about single black women. Yet, he's an unmarried, well into his 30's Black man, probably with no intent to marry.
Hill Harper wrote "The Conversation" yet he's a 43 year old single, never been married Black man. But he wants us to discuss this issue (BTW, I loved the book).
Steve Harvey. Okay, so he's married. YET, he's been married like 3 times, and didn't his ex wife call him out for playing her on the alimony, etc.???
Then you have women like Michelle McKinney Hammond. Once again, unmarried, but the author of books like "How to Be Found by the Man You've Been Looking For," "How to Make Love Work," "Secrets of an Irresistible Woman" and "101 Ways to Get and Keep His Attention"
Then these specials like ABC, CNN, etc. These shows aren't actually doing anything to help the Black community. Essence is always negative about Black love.
I am positive about all love, including Black love. So who's really cashing in on the single Black woman/Black love phenomena???
Tuesday, February 23, 2010
Thursday, February 11, 2010
From Hoe/Bitch to Mammie
Black “folk” not black people KILL me with their mess. If folk would get as passionate about the kids on the streets slinging drugs and teenage pregnancy as they do stirring the pot on non issues, we could really progress as a people.
Over Christmas I was sitting with my father and sister and the subject of growing up in the projects came up. Yes, before we got the house here in Jersey, we lived in one of New Yorks nicest projects.
I hated every minute of it. I was miserable. Not because it was the projects, but because the people were HORRIBLE to me. I quickly learned to knock folk out who picked on me. I am very tall (now six two), was accused of “talking white”, and I committed the worst sin of all-I loved and still do love rock n roll. I had the nerve to be smart and actually did my homework and passed my tests.
I didn’t hang outside with the other kids, I would travel to The Village and hang with the hippies and sing in Washington Square Park. My bff and dreamed of running away to go and live with Prince.
I have always been proud of me and my heritage. I have never limited myself to any one race of people or genre of music. I love trying different cultures foods and music. Growing up in the 70’s and 80’s right off of the civil rights movement, I have a great pride and responsibility to carry the mantle that those before me passed on to me.
I have always hated the word Nigger and unfortunately the first time I heard it was from a black man-the late great Redd Foxx. I learned more racist words from watching Archie Bunker. My parents always answered my myriad of questions and as I grew older I realized that people are just dumb.
I also can appreciate a warped sense of humor. I love George Carlin, Sam Kinnison, Richard Pryor, Simply Marvelous, Adele Givens, and Kathy Griffith. I really do. I was an avid Howard Stern listener from the moment he was on 66 WNBC am radio. Since I won’t pay for radio, I haven’t heard him in years.
So, having John Mayer as a friend isn’t all that shocking to me. He is a musical genius who continuously practices his craft. But he is an ass. I will be the first to say it. lol He just rambles whatever is on the top of his dome and now his current Playboy article is causing a riot on twitter and elsewhere.
He likened his penis to David Duke a KKK leader and he dropped the N bomb. All in one fell swoop. Reading his comments about his ex girlfriends was annoying me anyway but he didn’t quit while he was ahead. I was salty reading the article but then I moved on.
I thought about it and I forgave him. Publicly. I didn’t condone what he said, but like I said-he is an ass sometimes. I am not trying to date him, so he saying he doesn’t date black women doesn’t offend me. I don’t date short men. Cest la Vie!
Now later on, the firestorm hit Twitter. John Mayer is a RACIST! Mostly written by black people.
John Mayer isn’t a racist. An Ass, yes. A racist? Get real.
I have seen and heard WORSE from my own people. Why isn’t anyone up in arms when JayZ said on CAMERA when he was describing Amil (remember her?) as the classic black beauty because she was “Exotic” and classy looking? Why isn’t anyone up in arms about his wife who performs like an upscale stripper while singing “empowerment” songs?
BET is the most insulting channel on cable next to VH1. Headed by a black woman, tom foolery is constantly being fed to young black men and women DAILY. Videos of black women getting credit cards swiped down their asses and basically playing harem women to theses fools.
Where are todays Sidney Poiters, Ozzie Davis, and Cicely Tyson, and Diahanne Carrols? Black people who walked with dignity? Even Tina Turner and Lola Falana sexy as they were (and still are) carry themselves with CLASS.
With the surgence of “Black Hollywood” the images being spit out can’t be blamed on WHITE PEOPLE anymore. You can’t find a dark skinned sister in their movies and videos in a leading capacity.
Listen to rap songs of today. Bitches and hoes in every lyric. Folk have had forums DEFENDING the right to use the N word because when WE say it -it’s with love.
Miss me with that b.s.
I am not buying it and if we want respect from other races and cultures-we have to start within our own. Period.
When we see one of our own objectifying one of our own-we need to check it on the spot.
Holly Robinson Peete was referred to as a Mammie because she was quoted as saying she was flattered that John Mayer had her on his hot list of women he would love to sleep with. Why should she be called a Mammie when she is a Mommy to her four kids and a WIFE to her husband?
We don’t laud people like her who exemplify what a black family is SUPPOSED to look like. What the Obamas exemplify what a black family is supposed to look like.
We embrace dead beat dads and baby mamas. Why?
Before we check John Mayer about what he said, we need to check ourselves about what we are doing to each other FIRST.
Black is very beautiful and we are a great culture, we need to start showing it to US first and the world THEN would take a page from our very own stories. We can’t demand respect or that people stop using hurtful words until we stop doing it FIRST.
Over Christmas I was sitting with my father and sister and the subject of growing up in the projects came up. Yes, before we got the house here in Jersey, we lived in one of New Yorks nicest projects.
I hated every minute of it. I was miserable. Not because it was the projects, but because the people were HORRIBLE to me. I quickly learned to knock folk out who picked on me. I am very tall (now six two), was accused of “talking white”, and I committed the worst sin of all-I loved and still do love rock n roll. I had the nerve to be smart and actually did my homework and passed my tests.
I didn’t hang outside with the other kids, I would travel to The Village and hang with the hippies and sing in Washington Square Park. My bff and dreamed of running away to go and live with Prince.
I have always been proud of me and my heritage. I have never limited myself to any one race of people or genre of music. I love trying different cultures foods and music. Growing up in the 70’s and 80’s right off of the civil rights movement, I have a great pride and responsibility to carry the mantle that those before me passed on to me.
I have always hated the word Nigger and unfortunately the first time I heard it was from a black man-the late great Redd Foxx. I learned more racist words from watching Archie Bunker. My parents always answered my myriad of questions and as I grew older I realized that people are just dumb.
I also can appreciate a warped sense of humor. I love George Carlin, Sam Kinnison, Richard Pryor, Simply Marvelous, Adele Givens, and Kathy Griffith. I really do. I was an avid Howard Stern listener from the moment he was on 66 WNBC am radio. Since I won’t pay for radio, I haven’t heard him in years.
So, having John Mayer as a friend isn’t all that shocking to me. He is a musical genius who continuously practices his craft. But he is an ass. I will be the first to say it. lol He just rambles whatever is on the top of his dome and now his current Playboy article is causing a riot on twitter and elsewhere.
He likened his penis to David Duke a KKK leader and he dropped the N bomb. All in one fell swoop. Reading his comments about his ex girlfriends was annoying me anyway but he didn’t quit while he was ahead. I was salty reading the article but then I moved on.
I thought about it and I forgave him. Publicly. I didn’t condone what he said, but like I said-he is an ass sometimes. I am not trying to date him, so he saying he doesn’t date black women doesn’t offend me. I don’t date short men. Cest la Vie!
Now later on, the firestorm hit Twitter. John Mayer is a RACIST! Mostly written by black people.
John Mayer isn’t a racist. An Ass, yes. A racist? Get real.
I have seen and heard WORSE from my own people. Why isn’t anyone up in arms when JayZ said on CAMERA when he was describing Amil (remember her?) as the classic black beauty because she was “Exotic” and classy looking? Why isn’t anyone up in arms about his wife who performs like an upscale stripper while singing “empowerment” songs?
BET is the most insulting channel on cable next to VH1. Headed by a black woman, tom foolery is constantly being fed to young black men and women DAILY. Videos of black women getting credit cards swiped down their asses and basically playing harem women to theses fools.
Where are todays Sidney Poiters, Ozzie Davis, and Cicely Tyson, and Diahanne Carrols? Black people who walked with dignity? Even Tina Turner and Lola Falana sexy as they were (and still are) carry themselves with CLASS.
With the surgence of “Black Hollywood” the images being spit out can’t be blamed on WHITE PEOPLE anymore. You can’t find a dark skinned sister in their movies and videos in a leading capacity.
Listen to rap songs of today. Bitches and hoes in every lyric. Folk have had forums DEFENDING the right to use the N word because when WE say it -it’s with love.
Miss me with that b.s.
I am not buying it and if we want respect from other races and cultures-we have to start within our own. Period.
When we see one of our own objectifying one of our own-we need to check it on the spot.
Holly Robinson Peete was referred to as a Mammie because she was quoted as saying she was flattered that John Mayer had her on his hot list of women he would love to sleep with. Why should she be called a Mammie when she is a Mommy to her four kids and a WIFE to her husband?
We don’t laud people like her who exemplify what a black family is SUPPOSED to look like. What the Obamas exemplify what a black family is supposed to look like.
We embrace dead beat dads and baby mamas. Why?
Before we check John Mayer about what he said, we need to check ourselves about what we are doing to each other FIRST.
Black is very beautiful and we are a great culture, we need to start showing it to US first and the world THEN would take a page from our very own stories. We can’t demand respect or that people stop using hurtful words until we stop doing it FIRST.
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